Sometimes you need someone to not consider your feelings. They need to tell you what you don’t want to hear. This person is going to tell you to stop feeling sorry for yourself. They are going to tell you it’s time to move on. They are going to stop treating you like a wounded animal and expect things from you.
You are going to be angry. You are going to be hurt by this. You are going to scream about the injustice and how you can’t. What they say and expect will seem impossible. You will shout back that they don’t understand. That they can’t understand. You will mutter curse words at them under your breath. You will complain about what they said to others and others will comfort you and tell you how they shouldn’t have said anything.
The hard truth is that the person who told you to stand up, held you to an expectation, asked you to do something is the person who actually cares about you. They see you’re hurt, but they will have known you long enough to know its time for you to start taking baby steps to self-care.By telling you what you don’t want to hear they force you to focus on something else. While you are cursing them, you can’t feel sorry about your loss. Your focus for a moment is off your loss and on something/someone else. This person is no longer going to do nothing. This person is the best friend, family member, or acquaintance you have, Don’t be too angry at them for giving you a little push. The best people are the ones willing to tell you what you don’t want to hear.
Now my one caveat to this whole statement is that you know who is close enough to you to tell you what you need to hear compared to a complete acquaintance who barely know you. If someone who you barely know and are not soliciting advice from tries to tell you that you need to stop moping around and feeling sorry for yourself you have every right to be pissed and tell them to mind their own business.